Capability vs. Commitment
There are 2 main factors that determine success: Capability and Commitment. John had neither of these. John was not capable of doing the workouts due to his physical condition, and because he was not capable, he lost confidence in himself that he could reach his goal. He was also not committed to his goal. He only followed the workout program for a week and gave up because he did not want to struggle through workouts. John didn't put himself in a position to succeed and as a result, John never reached his goal of losing weight.
Perhaps if John had made a commitment to himself, or to his loved ones that he would stick with the program for 30 days and then re-evaluate, maybe he would have gotten over the hump and seen some results for his efforts. But because John only followed the program a week, he didn't give the program a chance to work for him, and he didn't give himself a chance for success.
Next time you set a personal goal, ask your self these questions: Am I capable?
Am I committed? Depending on the answer, you should be able to tell right then and there if you'll reach that goal.
If you are incapable and have no commitment, you will never succeed.
When you have no ability and no motivation, you lack the resources needed to accomplish your goal.
If you are capable but not committed, you will rarely succeed.
When you have ability, but no drive, you can often scrape by, but you'll never realize your full potential. Natural ability can only get you so far in life. The real winners are the ones who never stop pushing their own limits.
If you are incapable but committed, you may eventually succeed.
If you lack the ability, but have enough determination, you can overcome your shortcomings. This might mean learning a new skill, or having to work twice as hard as everyone else. You'll have more to overcome, but the reward will be that much sweeter. In the business world, I would take someone who was 100\% dedicated with no capability over someone who was capable but had no commitment. The person who wants something the most, will usually get it. The person who tries to coast through life will never go far.
If you are capable and committed, you will always succeed.
If you have the ability and the commitment, nothing can stop you from reaching your goal, period.
Getting Started - it's Half the Battle
As human beings, we all have hopes and dreams. We like to think about what the future might bring, and the type of life we might like to live one day. Just about everyone has these thoughts but few people go out and get what they want. How come only some people are able to turn their dreams into reality? Are these people born with a special gift? Are they just lucky? Maybe. But I believe that success is rarely an accident.
The dreamers of the world are great. They have grand ideas, big plans, tons of hope, and nothing to show for it. Now, I'm not trying to put down the dreamers by saying that, but in most cases dreamers do just what their name implies; they dream. Dreamers tend to think a lot about what they want, but when it comes to getting what they want, they rarely do. They haven't ever taken any action toward making those dreams come true. It's like they're waiting for opportunities to fall into their lap. That's why they are still dreamers.
Then there are the doers. These people are the self-starters, the movers and shakers, and the fearless go-getters. These people are goal oriented people. They use the motivation of an end result to spring themselves into action. If they set a goal, they immediately begin to act in a way that will bring them closer to achieving it. These people are also dreamers, but the difference is that they aren't afraid to act on those dreams. Unfortunately, too many of us lack this trait and are content to wish and hope and dream without ever taking any action.
Why is it so hard to take action. Are we paralyzed by a fear of failure? Are we too lazy to get off the couch and work toward something? Do we make excuses as to why things are happening to us? Let me tell you something. Things don't just happen to you. Everything that happens in your world is a result of the choices you make, the things you think, and the energy that you put out into the universe. The universe is great because it can be exactly what you want it to be.
Why is Getting Started So Hard?
So what's the difference between the two groups of people? Well, if you've ever looked for a job in the paper, I'm sure you came across ads that read, "Wanted, skilled individual to fill \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ position. Must be motivated and a self-starter . . ." A self starter is basically someone who can motivate themselves without needing a kick in the ass from their boss to get moving on a project. If you want to be a self-starter, you have to learn to kick your own ass. Don't rely on outside stimulus to come along and make you want to do something. It has to come from within.
Starting automatically puts you in motion. Even if you're moving in the wrong direction, you're at least moving instead of sitting still. Dreamers remain in a static phase. They never actually take the first step. Starting a project builds momentum. The initial motion will help you push through obstacles along the way. If you can't create that initial momentum, you'll never get past the first step.
Let the Universe Help You
The Universe is full of energy. Every living thing has energy and that energy is projected out into the Universe. The Universe is very responsive to this energy, and it projects the same energy back to all living things.
Have you ever had a person in your life that when you spend time with them you don't feel good. For whatever reason, you just get a negative vibe from them. Or have you ever met someone that you instantly feel at ease and content when you're around them?
I believe that people who put out a negative energy will find that their lives are filled with negativity and that's really just the Universe saying, "Thanks for the negative energy, you can have it back now." But then there are also people who project a positive energy. Those are the people that you love being around. Good things seem to happen to them. They make you feel good when you spend time with them. Those people are putting out positive energy and the Universe responds by putting that positive energy back onto them. By taking on your goals with a positive outlook, you're increasing your chances of success.
Tips and Warnings
Here's an example. John wants to lose weight. He eats pretty well, but he never exercises. He decides to go on a workout program that involves daily cardio and weightlifting. John tries the program for a few days, but the exercises are too hard for him to do. After a week, John decides the program is pointless and quits.