How to Develop Confidence


Develop a skill. I can't tell you how many times I've walked into Guitar Center and have seen guys who look like orcs from Lord of The Rings blasting away on the guitar like they were using the force from Star Wars! When I would stop and talk to a couple of these guys after their mini-show, they would seem really confident about themselves. I found something about this confidence charismatic as I am sure others have as well. Confidence isn't all about looks, even though that is an important aspect we'll go into later.

So the first step to developing unstoppable confidence is to develop a skill that you are proud of. Being professionally good at a skill gives you large amounts of self esteem, which in turn boosts your confidence. The great thing about this kind of confidence is that it will grow old with you. If you base your confidence soley on your looks or how much money is in your wallet, that's like building a house on sand -- any day a tragedy could strike and it would all be washed away.


Maintain your health and your looks. I know in the last step I totally talked down the importance of this step, but it still is very important. If you have a clean, well kept look people will notice that and treat you better. You'll find the better people treat you, the more self esteem you have and, once again, that means you have more self confidence.

Shower daily, maintain your hair and your clothing well. Also, guys, PLEASE WATCH THE BODY ODOR. Just a tip I think a few guys out there could use.


Be sure about who you want to be in the future. Have goals. People who know where they want to go in life tend to RADIATE confidence. You can see something in their countenance that tells you they are very sure of themselves. You want to mimic this as much as you can.

To do so, set goals. It's quite simple. Simply choose one HUGE ground shaking goal you want to accomplish in your life. Once you have decided what you want that goal to be, set a bunch of little mini-goals to act as steps in bringing you towards that goal.

For example, say you want to start a large corporation marketing some miracle cure. Set the goal to start a smaller business to help you earn the money to reach that goal. Now what mini-goals do you need to start a smaller business? Write all of those down and before you know it you will have a realistic path paved in front of you to get you from where you are at now to where you want to be.

Having goals will help keep you confident!

Tips and Warnings

  • Get a skill
  • Maintain a professional appearance
  • Set goals
  • You can't find yourself a job or a girl friend, no one will give you the time of day and no one takes you seriously. Why not? Maybe you don't have enough confidence. When someone is lacking confidence, people can see this. Girls are attracted to guys with confidence as are employers seeking employees. You'll find having confidence is a very key role to being successful in life. Did I mention you'll feel a lot better about your self if you have confidence, as well?

    How does a person get confidence? Are they just born with it? Maybe, depending on the family they were born into and the genetics they have been endowed with, but even if you are a homeless man who looks like a slug, it is still possible to have confidence and make an impression on the world.

    Confidence comes from the inside out, but there are definitely some steps you can take to develop that confidence.